If you have just been through a breakup, you might be thinking “I miss my boyfriend; how can I ever get him back?” Just as every relationship is different, every breakup situation is different. However, there are certain things you can do to help get him back. If you really miss your boyfriend and wish to get him back, you have to be careful not to push him away further.
Be sure to avoid these 4 mistakes if you want to get your ex boyfriend back:
1. Pretending To Be Nice and Pleasant
If you have to pretend to be nice and pleasant, then is it really worth it getting your ex boyfriend back? You will most likely be better off finding another guy who does not make you feel like you need to pretend. At the same time, no decent guy will put up with a woman who always finds something to complain, gripe, or nag about.
You want to be genuinely nice and pleasant around your ex boyfriend. If you have trouble displaying a pleasant personality, then you might have some personal issues you need to work on.
2. Waiting Too Long To Try Getting Him Back
Shortly after going through a breakup and saying “I miss my boyfriend,” you want to give him some space and take some time to work on yourself. At the same time, you don’t want to wait too long to get him back.
If you wait too long, he could end up with a new girlfriend. He could even end up eventually married and with children. Although you could have a chance getting your ex boyfriend back if he has a new girlfriend, you would not have an honest chance if he has a new wife and kids. Do you really think you could take someone away from their new family (legally or ethically)?
3. Using Deception and Trickery To Get Him Back
When dealing with heartbreak and saying “I miss my boyfriend,” it can be tempting to resort to deception and trickery. You do not want to feed him any lies or exaggerations that could backfire later. Any other forms of deception and trickery will only push him away for good.
4. Trying To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous
If you do decide to meet new people and go out and date, make sure you do it for your own happiness. Do not do it to make your ex boyfriend jealous.
Dating new people to make your ex jealous is a bad idea for several reasons:
- this could backfire and make him think that you have moved on
- it’s not fair to your date (someone’s feelings could get hurt)
- it’s not fair to you
In the long run, games like this do not work. If you really want to get your ex boyfriend back, you have to be honest with yourself and others.
Now you know what you should and should not do to get your ex boyfriend back. If you feel like you have to resort to any games or other forms of dishonesty, then he’s probably not worth it. Also keep in mind that if he cannot fully accept you for the real you, then you are better off with someone else.